S12 Ep. 5 / Stop Being a Doormat
Setting boundaries is a skill, but not a skill that gets easier. And yet, it’s one that’s rooted in wisdom that upholds your dignity and worth as an image bearer.
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Boundaries can hurt. But that doesn’t mean you’re doing something wrong by setting them.
God has placed in all of us dignity, purpose, agency, and limits, and they’re all worth protecting. Setting boundaries to protect each of these can feel selfish, as if our comfort or our opinions matter more than another person’s. So we often let other people run over us.
We might recognize that boundaries make sense, but we don’t want to face the grief boundaries bring because of unmet expectations or the loss of a relationship.
Yet boundaries don’t just serve or benefit us. They honor and reaffirm everyone involved in the conflict as an image bearer. They remind other people that God has something better for them than their destructive choices or behavior.
When we set a boundary, we shouldn’t set it expecting a specific outcome. We should set them to preserve, protect, and honor who we are — and who they are — as image bearers.
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